Since the new upgrade when ever I joined a game I had trouble connecting to some players (way more then usual)
Solution:
I changed my firewall settings by going on Control Panel -> Windows Firewall then on the left go to "Allow an app or feature through Windows firewall"
Click "Change settings" then scroll down to "Forged Alliance Forever" and make sure both "private" and "public" is checked (on mine only private was checked).
Click OK and restart FAF looby.
(although I have solved it myself and the problem was caused by my firewall not faf I have created this post as it may help others
credit should go to visionik as I got the idea from one of his forum posts)